阶段的转变



回想起之前在筹备活动而担任要职,学习经营和安排人手,培训新人等等的事情,在因缘果实成熟的今天,我在工作上也要开始着手了。

虽然是个小小的组长职,但却必须要承担更多的责任,而且也要照顾好团队里的氛围,更要表现更加的成熟,再也不可以有幼稚的心态,而且更不能轻易的把“心情不好”还有“我的心情今天有点灰”放到台面上。

培训的工作也在手上,在自我训练之余也要培训队友,我真的合十祈祷希望我这个微笑的力量可以撑起整支团队,也希望我们彼此聆听,接受批评还有供给合适意见,我总是相信“没有可以不可以的事情,而是要不要的问题。”

责任大了,工作量大了,甚至有点讨厌时间不足和漫长的周末,难道我陷进工作狂的阶段里?


不过,还是谢谢上司给予我机会,我只可以说,“我会喊累,但是我更不会因为喊累而放弃,我会好好干,而且干的漂亮!”

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My 700th post: Who are the 9 persons that I want to fly with...






If i had 10 AirAsia Free Seats, I would go to Macau, and I bring along 9 special and important individuals in my life - and here’s why.


First, Linda Hashim. I still recalled the day I met her, it was in TRAXXfm office, where she is busy looking at her computer, when I mentioned to my college mates - which both of us doing internship but different desk (I was at Sports Desk while she is in TRAXXfm) - that I want to do internship in radio station, Linda actually said yes and I have an immediate transfer on the next week.

With her, I polished my English, i learned much from her and the DJs, I have my own youth radio shows after my internship with TRAXXfm, and the best part was I am involved in production award-winning, radio documentary with TRAXXfm, my dream to work with radio station has come true.

She gave me the chance of exploring, test and error, and she hardly scold me even though I did something wrong, yet she taught me and direct me the best way, even solved the problem together with me. Sometime I think, who am I that deserved a good mentor like her.


Second, my best friend who is a mummy to be, Cherie Ooi, she was the first girl that i fall in love with during primary school times, but unfortunately the love god was not at my side. 

After that, we became best friend, we teased each other and laugh at each other, we understood each other, so we rarely have conflicts or fight. Though we have not spend our secondary school times together in the same classroom, yet the bond between both of us is so strong.

Friendship explained all, therefore she is the 2nd person that I want to bring to.


Third, Desiree Tan, she is my best buddy, since Kindergarten, I believed that I owed her much, therefore we were in the same Kindergarten, Primary, Secondary, and even college times. To me and her, we do not need to keep in touch, but we will have a lots of things to talk about and update each other, the relationship is so tight, and I would like to appreciate our friendship by bringing her to the trip.


Forth, Kenji Tee, my hairstylist. I first met him in 2010, and until now, my hair is only allow to be manage by him, no other stylist; no matter what artist offered themselves to me, my hair only for KENJI. The first met was so common, that I just thought that I want to give it a try, I walked into the saloon, and then the first meet is extended until now.

I told myself that no hairstylist can manage my hair well before I met Kenji, even though the moment i meet him also i thought this will be the first and last time, but still until today, my first hair dyed, my first hairstyle change and so on, is because of Kenji.


Fifth, Nawar Deress, my superior during my TVPR between year 2012-2014, this lovely lady with her smile and also laughter, her heels and also her style when she walks into the office, the aura that makes me feel warm and proud that have her as my boss.

She gave me chance of trying something big, I was PR who handled an international ranked badminton player wedding party, imagined that stress and pressure, but think from another perspective, if it is not her, then i will not have an awesome portfolio in my resume, she guided me by her ways, therefore i would like to “buy” her a trip.


Sixth, Yloon Yap, my current team leader after I have been transferred to another team, since the day we met, I never expect that our relationship will be like this, he guided me, advised me, encouraged me, taught me, i treated him as my big brother, as we shared the same surname. Macau definitely not the first country that he wanted to go, but I hope that this little give will be a little thing from me to him.


Seventh, Teh Yen Rhong, a special dude that I met in 2014, a quiet and shy boy who are going to sit for his STPM, why him and Macau, I want to make him do crazy thing over at MACAU streets, that will also helps to boost up his confidence in public.

Also I would like to produce a video about this shy boy, and how he found his confidence in Macau - this is my dream and aspiration, also one of the target of my life.


Eighth, A Stranger, that I don’t know who yet, I just want to bring him together with me and do something crazy over there


Ninth, HER, someone that i am seeing currently, I have not holding a girl hand since 2010, and she is definitely the next I wanted to hold and will hold it forever. The biggest reason that I wanted to bring her is because her dream of going to oversea, and she can’t make it, and I wanted to make this a big present to her.


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空中翱翔的隐形翅膀 - 马航,我的荣耀




在别人受伤的时候,我们给予最简单的帮助,也就是言语上的安慰;这是我觉得最崇高无上的祝福和慰籍。

在一个人害怕的时候,虽然一句“别怕”可能奏效,但是这不比上一个拥抱。这是我觉得最有效的动作,直接心贴心的给予对方祝福和安慰,也从心跳去聆听对方最需要的一份温暖。

马航的2014年记录了飞航史录上最黑暗的一记,而身为马来西亚人,虽然没有搭乘过也好,也必须在身体上支持着它,因为那对展翅高飞的翱翼,不只是承载着有梦想的人,而也承载着马来西亚人的荣耀。

或许还有人认为MH370和MH17都是马航的错,我当时也是这么样的想,我非圣人,我思想狭窄,所以才会觉得两件飞航事故都是和马航的错,可是仔细想,难道真的是他们的错吗?

后来,我比较关注的是,超过400位罹难者的家属的心情;而这个时候我们不是要煽风点火,而是给予马航最大的支持,还有给予家属们最大的安慰。

对于MH370事件,马航虽欠家属们一份真诚的交代,但谁可以说他们未曾努力过?从商业或是集团经营,或是国家印象种种原因来看,我相信他们未曾放弃过,我也敢说,”有人还觉得MH370仍然翱翔在空中“

对于MH17事件里,我只有一种想法,”你们回家了,放下吧。“

回看自己,我们是BYSTANDER(旁观者)吗?还是惯性在别人的伤口上撒盐呢?在这二者中,我们哪一样做得比较多?哪一项又做的比较少呢?这是今晚值得深思的一件事情。



今晚送上由国际知名的马来西亚籍歌手YUNA为马航新国庆短片撰写的新歌《Langit》


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造口业的人

造口业的人是永远不会反省,而且会好像染上毒瘾般,屡屡造业。

别人口中的你却相信着,却不相信当事人口中说出的每一言每一句,这是你的悟性不高,你虽然聪明但是毫无智慧可言。

我承认自己曾经是个烂人,但是谁不允许烂人从良?机会不是你给的,而是我自己争取的,你也并非可以赋予我机会的圣人,而改变完全是我自己想要做的善事。

我为人简单,对我善的人,我肯定会以善回报;对我恶的人,我会忍到无法可忍之际,就会反击,而且还会重拳出击。

在你要求我照顾你的尊严的同时,请你牢记我也是一个普通人,我比你更好的地方莫过于,我知道我所说的每一句话都会照顾着你的心和尊严,而你不会。

造口业的人永远在思考上有障碍,因为他们不知道在说话时选择攻击性低或是毫无攻击性的字句,每次都是因为要仗自己出风头或是要秀自己能干,而胡说八道。

造口业的人假作是个爱玲听的人,但最终了解到他岂不是抓字虱的个体;当在文字上得到尊重时,就觉得这是理所当然;当在文字上发现对自己不利的时候,就会如同恶狗逮到猎物,紧咬不放。别告诉我这是在保护他人,这完全是你保护自己利益的最佳写照。

我受够了,代表着我受够了;你尊重我,我就尊重你,别怪我给你黑脸。


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《麦来乱》后:從想法的萌生,到生活營的落幕



從想法的萌生,到生活營的落幕

这一次生活营的课程方向:Bystander,你有否尊重你的角色?

第一次會議好像是在我的家,那一次只有我們夢想家“Dreamers”和四位主催人的會議,那時候大家也討論的熱融融,覺得很多事情也可以辦得到,很多天馬行空的想法,想要嘗試的也很多。

我還記得叫他們到客廳去討論事情,他們真的乖乖到客廳做討論;更恐怖的莫過於兩天後,工委團就已經逐步成立,所有重擔都幾乎有了人去承擔,而且可以說已經到了30%的完成工作,那個速度嚇到了我們三個老人家,而也鼓勵了我們快速的和他們同步。
第一次觉得我的背影很好看

我知道對於他們而言,一下子要做這麼多確實很吃力,但是我總不可以說不吧?“好吧!儘管去做,不要擔心,我們一定支持走下去。”當口說出這句話的時候,我知道那個責任來了。

贴心营员在心得报告给我留言,这让我感觉到很窝心。
接踵而來的會議和6月生活營之間的時間,根本無法讓我喘口氣,更何況6月的車禍讓我好一陣子沒有了交通可以自由出走,我確實不想錯過任何一次的聚會,但是我的因緣卻不讓我這樣做。

人老確實無法回想之前發生過的事情,但是我記得的是,“我們不曾因爲事情不合而吵架,反倒那些守望相助,不分彼此的互相幫忙,就可以輕易的被看到。”

第一次培訓日,我結束了私人行程後趕緊的過去佛教會和大家會面,其實我知道因爲之前的活動因爲不怎麼順利而好像有一點點兒冷場,雖此但是我們還是努力的走下去,只希望大家可以先知道有彼此這一號人物。

Partners in Crime: Shuwen and Jialerk
Founder of "Project Dreamers"
Shuwen is currently serving as the Chairman/Coordinator
and Jialerk is the Chief Planner of this group
每一日每一時,我都希望生活營趕快來到;可是我卻在擔心着,因爲這是“全男營”,當時我的腦海裏就是把男生和壞蛋、調皮、吵鬧、沒有紀律,把這些負面的都牽起來。也因爲如此,更加考慮到,“他們是男生,很難把較爲苦悶的佛學和他們分享。”

第二次的集訓,工作坊發生了很嚴重的事情,我無法再繼續培訓下去;我在沒有知會團隊的情況下去睡覺,可是隱約卻聽到大家的玩樂聲。在我能夠平復心情後,怎知道晚上卻來了一件更嚴重的事情,我醒了再睡;臉頰淚乾再留 ——那一夜很漫長。

但讓我欣慰的就是大家很努力的去培訓,去嘗試所有活動;去反映所有活動的問題所在,有他們這個生活營真的不需要擔心什麼事情。

成长最多的莫过于是工委,从策划到筹备,碰到问题共同解决;这是属于他们最荣耀的一刻。
這是一個完全由學生親手去做的生活營,從籌備到籌款,到聯絡巴士還有何膳食供應商接洽,宣傳還有安排人手,住宿安排等等,是由歲數1字開頭的學生去籌備,夢想家(非營利組織則是從旁協助安排課程),老師們也只是從旁協助,所以他們的成熟度已經到了一個我們意想不到的境界。

說老實,這是我碰過最有素質的營員, 和有素質的籌委團,,所以生活營可以說是大圓滿。
營長大人在培訓日後表示“啟勝對於這一類的知識比較厲害(佛學知識)。” 讓我深思了許久, 到底之前的我去了哪裡? 那個滿腹佛語的葉添鴻去了哪裡? 那個隨時可以說出佛經章節的我去了哪裡?

以下是我心目中的强人(部分工委),
团康及其中一位辅导员
副营长兼任团康,在后面拍照的是麦士威的老师。

尽责的秘书和财政,在生活营里的膳食组

开朗的辅导员

帅气的辅导员
生活组的娘娘

动作很大的那位是进步神速的营长家振

开朗且常常分享建议的摄影师

启胜,
他对佛教佛学等的坚持让我学习了不少,
就因为如此,我需要更加的精进学习,
谢谢你,而让我觉得若是我怠慢下来,
就等同于枉费人生
他的敦促還有提醒成了我必須要努力的動力启胜的佛学知识更提醒了我,我退步了。还是可能自身长久以来的病而导致而成。

生活營的前一天,甚至是當天早上,我還心存着擔心。營前工委們的擔心,我心存“爲什麼要擔心,這是一支很好的團隊”,但是想到“全男”營的時候,我開始擔心着“這回兒慘了,我肯定會不停的喊破喉嚨。

原來我錯了,麥士威的孩子們都很乖。

我们在后巷口拍团体照;这可能是学员们的第一次。


要求大家配合遊戲,大家都很努力的配合,要求大家安靜也非常的尊守,更讓我驚訝的是,“這班孩子在午餐時,是非常x100的安靜。”很多事情,是工委們親眼看到的才膽敢說出來。

我相信每一項教導分享的知識,大家都緊緊地記在腦海裏,好比說:雖然是在第二天早上教導大家的問訊,大家也一學就會,而且也一直在修行着,沒有忘記。

这是我

很多活動也因爲時間和空間的不足而變成必須要縮短或是加緊時間完成,也有些完全不能夠達到標準,可是最難得的莫過於,因爲我們從簡了佛學的內容,而讓學員對佛學更有興趣;有學員甚至要求一本巴利文的課誦本,想要自己參考;有學員自發性的在結營後的晚餐,誦讀《感恩的一餐》(佛教在每日餐事前的祈禱文)。
最佳男营员的承诺:)

他在背后默默地带领着团队,毫无怨言的闯破所有设下的关卡,他就是麦士威国中首届佛学生活营《麦来乱》的最佳男营员 - 禅定部落的Sir Piscent - 叶招杰 Yap Chow Kiat
更讓隊輔長掉淚的是,有一名年僅13歲的孩子,竟然可以解釋《吉祥經》給我們聽。有一位學員更很乖巧的每次看到我們都對我們說謝謝和早安,這些看在普羅大衆的眼裏,是一些不起眼的事情,但是看在我們眼裏並不是如此,他們是很有心想要學習的孩子。

“原來麥士威也有這麼專業的活動”是我看到回饋裏最大鼓勵的一句話,“我希望明年再來”更是鼓舞着我們人心,從擔心變成了鼓勵。

很难得的一个拥抱,谢谢你哦~
在一个生活营里,很多时候大家都觉得,“哦,你不要承担其他工委阿?那你就去辅导员的组别啦!”对不起,在这里并不是这样,而在这里的辅导员都是经过精挑细选而招来的,在我心中是最好的辅导员组。衷心感激你们的出现,仿佛就是度世菩萨办出现在我的生命里。
















寫到這裏我掉了眼淚。

可能再寫吧?

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